How Do I Talk To My Daughter About Role Models?
The Crocodile Hunter’s little girl is all grown up and making good choices. At a recent red carpet event, Bindi Irwin dressed tastefully and expressed concern about those who try to dress as if they are older and said, “I’m a big advocate for young girls dressing their age.”
We posed the question of whether or not Bindi was a good role model for their daughters to our Secret Keeper Girl moms. It should be noted that Bindi’s faith seems a bit confusing as her mother states she is a Christian but her father was interested in Buddhism, so maybe some caution should be used in holding her up in terms of faith. Bindi has also presented pro-choice thoughts publicly. As an overall role model, she may not be the perfect one but she stands out considerably as making good choices and reflecting a healthy lifestyle and could be someone you can talk to your daughter about.
This isn’t really a blog about Bindi. It’s about role models and Bindi’s recent comments on modesty sparked some thoughts that we wanted to share. In asking moms if she was a good role model for modesty, we got a lot of mixed opinions. Some gave her a big thumbs up and others gave her unquestionable thumbs down. But it was this comments from one mom that got us thinking:
“She may be a good fashion example for now, but there is a risk involved in allowing your daughter to model herself after such a young and still growing human. She is still shaping her view of the world and herself. Someone to watch, yes. Someone to emulate, I’m not so sure about that just yet.”
Great thoughts here. The risk is inarguable when you look to young role models. They can change. We’ve certainly seen a few good ones go bad. And that’s the word that shook us…risk.
Here’s the big question: should we take the risk to encourage our daughters to embrace role models at all?
There is a strong biblical defense in the case for embracing role models, even in the face of moms who are obviously concerned about how much they can be trusted. The first chapter of I Thessalonians is just one place where Paul admonishes believers to be “examples”. (Isn’t that just another word for role model?) He writes to the church at Thessalonica with a commendation, “you have become imitators of us and of the Lord.” They key to a role model? They should be ultimately following the role model of Christ. That wipes out anyone who is not a believer as someone we can follow.
But there’s still that word: risk. And moms seem fearful of entrusting young role models with their daughters. But is this biblical wisdom or worldly ruin caused by so much past disappointment? We think it’s the later. In I Timothy Paul writes, “Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young but be an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.” Clearly, we should be cultivating young role models. Not fearing them.
So, look around, moms. Is there someone a few years ahead of your daughter who is a good example because they are following Christ? Don’t be afraid to take the risk.
Let us know your thoughts on this because we’re developing ours and value your opinion. Leave a comment below.
Dannah Gresh’s Secret Keeper Girl Tour is a faith-based mother-daughter connecting experience. This 2 1/2 hour event features two fun fashion shows that demonstrate modesty and true beauty, deep Bible teaching, live worship, and stories that help girls aged 7-12 embrace true beauty and modesty. Incredible balloon sculptures, bouncing beach ball competitions, mother/daughter conversation time & colorful confetti cannons make the night unforgettable. Click the video below for a sneak peak.
On Irwin family faith: http://www.readersdigest.com.au/terri-and-bindi-irwin-?page=1
On Bindi’s modesty preferences: